Life is a strict teacher. It tests you first and then teaches you a lesson. The best part is these lessons make you strong, resilient and warrior. Each time you fail in something, each time it knocks you down be thankful for those hard times. Be grateful because you survived it and you have shown life that you are not going to give up so quickly. I am going to tell you about the brutal truth I’ve learned from the lessons life has taught me.

You might have learned many lessons in life about how to trust people, how to bounce back after setbacks, how to make people believe in you, and more. It could be a lesson if you have survived a toxic relationship. It could be your negative coworker with whom you have dealt. Remember, if you came out more confident and stronger, then you have learned the secret of living a great life. You will agree with the saying, “what doesn’t break you makes you stronger.”

There are few lessons life has taught me, and I am going to share now.

1. You are your best friend and worst enemy

I know it’s difficult to digest how can you be your best friend and the worst enemy at the same time. You have to understand yourself first. What are your strengths and limitations? How will you improve yourself? Do you adopt changes easily? Are you stubborn to not accept the reality? Do yourself a favor and give the answers to yourself honestly.

Sometimes you believe that whatever is going around you doesn’t make any sense because it doesn’t fit into your values. You are in the wrong place but try to look at the bigger picture. Perhaps, you are not listening to your inner voice properly or trying to turn a deaf ear as you think if you adapt to your surroundings then it will hurt you.

Once you start understanding yourself, you learn that it’s the best thing you’re doing to yourself.

2. You might find love not just once

You might have heard people saying that true love happens only once. It is not correct. You will find true love more than once in your life. There are billions of people in this world, and there are many who will understand you better, who will love you for who you are.

Love is a very complicated feeling. You cannot make people fall in love with you, but it is possible to grow in love eventually or drop out of love gradually. Both things are possible with the same person. Falling in love is easy but staying in love is not.

3. You cannot control who will stay in your life

It is one thing life has taught me that you cannot control someone’s loyalty. If people are going to break your trust, then it is going to happen. It doesn’t matter whether you are staying loyal to them. There is no guarantee that you will never meet someone who is going to cheat you.

If someone has come into your life with some selfish motives, then it is sure that he or she will leave you as soon as his or her purpose is fulfilled. Even though they know you need them, they will leave. No matter how much efforts you put to make them stay, if they are going to go away, you cannot keep them.

4. You can change your career at any stage of life

Gone is the time when people used to stick to one profession their whole life. The world has evolved a lot, and there are so many new opportunities one can find. You might have excelled in a science background, but if you are passionate about singing, then you should go for it.

It is my experience that I used to work for an IT company, and I was doing great with my computer engineering background, but I was passionate about writing. I decided to work as a full-time blogger, and that was the best decision in life. All I can say is there is nothing wrong to change your career if it gives you inner satisfaction.

5.  It’s a fallacy if someone tells you he or she knows what life is

It is the most valuable lesson in my life when I understand that the people who claim that they know what is life is the biggest lie they are telling you. They might know what is living according to their perspective and their experiences, but they don’t know anything about you and your life. Everyone’s life is different because everyone is living differently.

You have your thinking and understanding about your life. So you cannot tell someone how to live life, based on your past or visions about the future. Your life is what you make it.

6. If you want something badly chase it

You might have many desires, dreams, and wishes in your life but some of them are too difficult to forget. It is a saying, “Dreams are something that never let you sleep.” If your dream is not letting you sleep, then you have to run after it. Find some ways to achieve your goals, make things work, push yourself to go in that direction.

You won’t realize your strength until you put it into action. When you want to achieve something that you are longing for since long, then you work harder than ever before. You give your best every time. The best of your abilities and skills come out when you are chasing something you want badly.

7. Only one decision can either change your life entirely or destroy it

I am sure you will agree with me on this. There are numerous occasions where you had to take only one decision, but that one choice was enough to change your life or destroy it. If you see yourself today where you are and what you are then it is the outcome of the one decision you had taken in your life.

Sometimes your instincts may help you to take the right path, but sometimes it doesn’t. Perhaps, you don’t listen to your instincts and misguide yourself and make a wrong turn. I believe that you are always one decision away to change your life.

In the end, I want to say only one thing, “When life gives you 100 reasons to cry, give life 1000 reasons to laugh.”

What is the most important lesson you’ve learned in your life? Please share with us the comment section below or email us at sharestory@beinginsightful.com.